I was reminded of change and growth the other day..

If you have ever read anything I've written you will know I do like telling stories, do love a fine metaphor... and a good quote for that matter; with that said, I think it is fair to say you have been forewarned.

Over the past couple of years I have downsized my house into something much smaller in the city, decided to build a boutique consulting shop and have been positioning myself to look at the world with more of an entrepreneurial eye. I am developing a body of work through my blogging and writing and changing myself to look at life differently; a wonderful journey so far. Recently, I had a conversation with someone who did not understand what I was doing, why I was doing it, saw no benefit in what I was doing, suggested it would be more beneficial to go back to what I was doing before it was to late, and measured success with touchstones that were more reflective of a repugnant character than success. 

To all of it I simply said, "This is your problem, not mine".  And if Internet motivational quotes are any indication, I was right.

I was right for many other reasons but go with it.

For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, it's insides come out and everything changes. To someone who doesn't understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.  - Cynthia Occlli

When she transformed into a butterfly, the caterpillars spoke not of her beauty, but of her weirdness. They wanted her to change back into what she always had been.

But she had wings.

- Unknown

As I reflect back on that discussion of change and growth, I was reminded of one last quote that is important as you take those first steps towards growth.

You only need your approval.

Anyone elses is just a bonus.

- Unknown

Remember, I did warn you.

iamgpe

Something shiny caught my eye and I looked down...

It seems I am metaphorically reflective today and apologize in advance; an aspect of being Canadian I suppose, although I'm not sure which. 

The other day, after finishing a slightly above average workout, I was in the change room when something shiny caught my eye and I looked down. On the floor was a shiny American penny; Lincoln side up. It took me a moment to recognize it for what it was and then I smiled a big smile (almost laughed outloud). It was such a pleasant surprise!

Why my reaction?

First of all the penny was discontinued by the Royal Canadian Mint in 2013 so in Canada it is a rare thing indeed.

Finding an American penny in the change room of a fitness club in Toronto can be assumed to be a really rare occurrence. 

As historical figures go, I think Lincoln was a great man and accomplished great things.

Finally, I was reminded of my American friends and colleagues who I have known over the years. I have been blessed with their friendship, and have grown personally and professionally because of it. 

How could someone not reflect on this metaphorically? For me, this penny was a wonderful metaphor for opportunity.

• Opportunities tend to be found in unexpected places,
• Opportunities like to show up when you least expect them.
• Opportunities need to be recognized for what they are.
• Opportunities will take you places.
• And with an opportunity, you will meet wonderful people, learn wonderful things, and be forever changed.

All you have to do is pick it up.

And that is what I did... a very dear friend of mine taught me that.

iamgpe.

Fifty-seven and full of fucking advice...

Yesterday was my birthday and two things happened. The first was I got to spend a wonderful evening with my daughter and received well wishes from friends, and the second was I got to listen in on an interview. 

To the first point, and I believe this says it all, "I would like to say I am so blessed to have a wonderful family, and wonderful friends; I am so very grateful."

To the second point, I have a little more to say (this is not an aspect of being fifty-seven as it seems I've always had something to say). As part of my birthday celebrations, I found myself at one of my favourite "mobile office" spots crunching numbers, doing analysis and developing plans when two people sat down next to me and started to conduct an interview. As a quick aside, I would like to remind everyone that if you conduct a business meeting in a public place, people will be listening; sometimes they are just curious bystanders, but sometimes they may be competitors. I am just saying.

It was an interview for a sales position, with a woman who was looking to advance her career and the sales manager looking to fill a vacancy. They were both Millennials; the woman was on the tail end of the demographic and the sales manager was one of the first to hit the workforce. They seemed to be discussing an industry I was somewhat familiar with so I did what anyone in my position would do, I began to multitask. As my numbers started to take shape their interview progressed.

It was pretty standard stuff as interviews go and he was doing an average job. Since I have interviewed hundreds of people and hired at least seventy, I have earned the right to be a little "judgy". My interest was fading with the two beside me as my numbers started to speak to me; that was until the sales manager moved away from his standard interview format and started to expand on his philosophies, and thoughts on success. As their interview ended I fought the urge to turn to him and say, "You know, if I was your boss I would hire her and fire you. You are simply awful". 

I didn't say that of course because my business was in front of me. This is why I wanted to though.

• He openly criticized  team members that the rep would be working with.
• He was, in a very public forum, discussing details of the business, including sales territory size and quotas. Frankly, I don't know how they could justify a rep.
• He eluded to the expense account as a component of her compensation, and even went on to propose what salary she should ask for.
• He suggested that the work isn't really that demanding, and in the summer he played a fair bit of tennis, and worked less than thirty hours a week.

In all of this, his greatest sin in my mind was he made it clear he was a process guy, and although he would ensure that she got trained (and ticked the box), there was no indication of any competency development, career development, and what that meant for her. He was a people manager who obviously didn't really care about his people. Maybe this is just reflective of the collaborative nature of the Millennial, the new ways of doing things, and their belief they have it all figured out (which in fairness, sometimes they do). Maybe this is really more reflective that I'm into my fifty-eighth year and I just don't get it anymore; it is a youth culture after all.

I'm not sure that is it though because there is something important to remember, "I know what it is like to be young, but you don't know what it is like to be old."  In all of this, I am not suggesting that the sales representative and sales manager would not find their way. I am just suggesting though that having insight into experience and sage advice can sometimes make finding your way a little easier.

Go find someone who is at least fifteen years older than you and make them your mentor. In the case of the interview I witnessed, it would have helped the sales rep ask better questions and definitely helped the sales manager not say so many "stupid things." And one last thing, you can't use your parents, because although they love you, it doesn't mean they know what they are talking about.

There you have it, fifty-seven and full of fucking advice; if you are a Milliennial, go get a mentor.

iamgpe