There is a simple truism and it is, "if you do something, something will happen". And yes, it does conjure up images of that famous crime fighter Captain Obvious*... please indulge me a little before asking me to reach for my cape.
Let me begin by saying that "doing something" does not include "hoping", "worrying", "praying", "wishing", "lamenting" or anything of this ilk. As much as some people believe that something will happen as a result, it rarely does... other than wasting energy I suppose.
"Something" refers to action; measurable and elicits a reaction. In other words, if you want to make something happen, you have to take action! And with that Captain Obvious strikes again... or does he? Have you ever know someone who was "waiting for it to happen?"
Dr Seuss famously called it the Waiting Place:
"...for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or waiting around for a Yes or a No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.
Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a sting of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.
Only by doing something can you "escape the waiting place" and make things happen. It may be obvious, but if we are truthful, we have all spent some time in the waiting place. "If you do something, something will happen" may not be as obvious as we think, and definitely easier said than done.
Don't get me wrong... "doing something" and taking action is actually easy! Where that challenge lies is what happens as a result. Sometimes it may not go exactly as expected. But that is OK! The important point is something is happening - It is all good!
I feel obliged to point out that when I refer to "doing something", it is in the context of positive action, being constructive, and that you would have no issues involving your mother. So as you are making something happen (with or without your mother), remember this -
- You are getting closer to your goals and dreams**
- You actions are initiating a change, and change is good!
- Making something happen is usually an iterative process, Things build upon themselves.
- For everything that happens, you have learned something.
- "Making it happen" will take you places you would never thought possible.
- You have a lifetime, so keep working it.
- Enjoy it! Because it is happening.
Life, love, work and play... these are our adventures; do something and make them happen.
* Captain Obvious: a title given to someone who openly states something obvious... such as "Hot Chocolate is hot"
** Dreaming is internally driven and the birthplace of aspiration, goals and ultimately action to make it happen; different from "wishing, etc" that look to external forces or hold negative energies.