Everything new starts with an introduction...

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Everything new has a first; a beginning... an introduction. The other day, I was reminded of how fast and important it can be. 

Among the other things I have on the go, I am helping my father re-organize his home; a fun and wild adventure I might add.  As a carpet installer arrived to give an estimate, we were outside enjoying the day... he walked up to us, introduced himself and shook our hands; he then mentioned he had to run back to his truck and get his carpet samples. When he was out of earshot my father looked at me and said, "I like him. What do you think?"

In an article by Eric Wargo entitled How Many Seconds to a First Impression , he offers some very interesting research that my father seemed to validate. 

"A series of experiments by Princeton psychologists Janine Willis and Alexander Todorov reveal that all it takes is a tenth of a second to form an impression of a stranger from their face, and that longer exposures don’t significantly alter those impressions (although they might boost your confidence in your judgments). Their research is presented in their article “First Impressions,” in the July issue of Psychological Science."

My father was right - Woody was an expert in flooring, honest with his appraisal and his assessment; it turned out there was no need for a new carpet. He said the existing carpet was very high quality, just needed to be re-installed, cleaned, and would be as good as new. My father liked him so much after that, he is now having Woody put new carpet in the basement. We all wholeheartedly agree. 

Anything new will involve an introduction to someone, and most likely, many "someones" - In this age of the avatar, we are becoming masters of image control, branding ourselves and managing the degrees of separation between ourselves and others. The inescapable fact though is that anything new, important, worthwhile and significant needs to be done face to face. Don't shy away from it.

You might as well just be yourself - As per the research of Princeton psychologists Janine Willis and Alexander Todorov, and validated by my father, impressions will be made very quickly so just be yourself up front. And don't assume people are so easily fooled, it's a survival trait we've picked up over the millennia. 

"You can be the ripest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches" - Sometimes a person's impression of you will not be a good one. Like it or not, it is just the way it is - Move on. 

Networking - If you want to practice your introductions, just introduce yourself to everyone you meet... start networking formally and informally. I can guarantee you will meet new and interesting people; that will lead to new and interesting opportunities.

It seems I have been remiss with introducing myself, "Hello, my name is Graham Paul Edwards"

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... we shall never surrender...

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I am currently reading a biography on Winston Churchill by Roy Jenkins; up front I will say it's a "meaty read" and well worth it! Inside the book cover it reads in part...

Winston Churchill is an icon of modern history, but even though he was at the forefront of the political scene for almost sixty years, he might be remembered only as a minor player in the drama of British government had it not been for World War II...

 As Churchill's story unfolds in front of me, I am wonderstruck...

Winston Churchill was 65 years old when he became Prime Minister of Great Britain - A goal he never gave up on; when he achieved it, he was just getting started - Never let the illusion of time stop you from doing what you want to do... you are never too young, and you are never too old! 

The icon that is Winston Churchill was forged in one of the most challenging times in modern history; 60 Million people died in World War II, and the geo-political landscape that we know today echoes of Churchill's meetings with Roosevelt and Stalin - Never back down from the challenge or the fight; your steel, your conviction, your character... who you are, will be found there. This is where your greatness is forged!

My grandmother (god bless her soul), gave me a book of Churchill's speeches when I was seven; to this day I remember the words, "we shall never surrender". These words come from Churchill's famous June 4th, 1940 call to arms speech entitled, "We shall fight on the beaches".* 

The promotion you wanted but didn't get... "never surrender"

The relationship that is supposed to be, but didn't happen... "never surrender"

That voice that should be heard, but isn't ... "never surrender"

That spirit that should be free, but isn't ... "never surrender"

That passion that has not yet been found ... "never surrender"

Choosing to do "what is right"... "never surrender"

The freedoms that so many fought and died for ... "NEVER SURRENDER"

Off to read some more. Thank you Gramma!

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*Winston Churchill's full speech: I have, myself, full confidence that if all do their duty, if nothing is neglected, and if the best arrangements are made, as they are being made, we shall prove ourselves once again able to defend our Island home, to ride out the storm of war, and to outlive the menace of tyranny, if necessary for years, if necessary alone. At any rate, that is what we are going to try to do. That is the resolve of His Majesty’s Government-every man of them. That is the will of Parliament and the nation. The British Empire and the French Republic, linked together in their cause and in their need, will defend to the death their native soil, aiding each other like good comrades to the utmost of their strength. Even though large tracts of Europe and many old and famous States have fallen or may fall into the grip of the Gestapo and all the odious apparatus of Nazi rule, we shall not flag or fail. We shall go on to the end, we shall fight in France, we shall fight on the seas and oceans, we shall fight with growing confidence and growing strength in the air, we shall defend our Island, whatever the cost may be, we shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills; we shall never surrender, and even if, which I do not for a moment believe, this Island or a large part of it were subjugated and starving, then our Empire beyond the seas, armed and guarded by the British Fleet, would carry on the struggle, until, in God’s good time, the New World, with all its power and might, steps forth to the rescue and the liberation of the old.

"You got a lifetime". Humbly... what I have learned so far.

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"You got a lifetime. No more. No less".

Neil Gaiman* said this.

For me it carried profoundness in its simplicity, which I intuitively felt but could not quite articulate. It wasn't until the celebration of two birthdays, a first and a forty-first, that Neil's words finally became clear - Our lifetime; this grand adventure, is "finite". It wasn't an epiphany so much as it served as a wonderful reminder. Admittedly, I sometimes assume this adventure will all last forever, and take it for granted. 

As I smiled at myself for taking so long to catch on, I also reflected on what I have learned so far, and how this would serve me as I continued my adventures over the next forty years. I will tell you this comes from personal experiences, and humbly, this is what I have so far: 

• People will shape your life... today, tomorrow, and tomorrow's tomorrow. You may know them intimately or only from afar, but they will teach and inspire; you will talk with them, hear about them or read their history. All of them influencing... good, bad or indifferent. Sometimes you will get it right, and sometimes not so much, but in the end every person will impact you; choose who you associate with carefully and decide if you want them influencing your life. And remember this is a two way street.
• You can do much in a lifetime, but sadly you cannot do it all. When you look at your life the question to ask yourself on a regular basis is, "Am I satisfied?" If the honest answer is "no", you must ask yourself why and fix it. It's not just about asking the question itself, but rather asking it on a regular basis... and I mean daily. Leaving this question for years or even decades will not only make it more difficult to fix, but may profoundly impact those people around you.
• You will get scared, and that is very human. When you are scared you need to recognize it, understand it, and not let it stop you. It is never as bad as you think it is, and you will get through it. Being scared is never a reason to not do it, particularly when it comes to satisfaction.
•  Comfort level is deeply personal, and is not relative to anyone else but you... one person's comfort is another's risk. I have discovered some of the most wonderful aspects of life are found outside what you define as your comfort level. If it scares you a little, it's probably a candidate for the to-do list. Celebrate bravery at any level!
• Do not take it for granted! It may last a lifetime, or gone in the blink of an eye... appreciate it when you have it, and cherish the memory when it is gone. You will be richer for it!

I'm satisfied with my list so far... but again, I still have a lifetime. No more. No less.

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* Neil Gaiman is married to Amanda Palmer, and if you have read any of my earlier blogs, you know I'm in love with her. No disrespect to Neil intended.