a Series of 10 —the comfort of not deciding

By my count I am 9 blogs away from having written 500 blogs on my two websites. I thought it might be an interesting idea to write these remaining blogs based on the common threads that have woven themselves through the last 491 I have written — and with that said, “a Series of 10” will continue with a blog on decisions.

I am going to argue that making a decision is a binary event — it is either a “yes or no” proposition; any other word, and the dreaded word “maybe” comes to mind, is a flashing red light in my mind. As with all things, there are caveats and I will get to that.

If you have a decision to make, and it doesn’t matter whether your answer is “Yes I will do something” or “No I will not do something”, it subconsciously signals a couple of things to the world:

You have established a vision, goals and objectives. These may be well thought out and easily articulated or maybe something more abstract, not well thought out and unarticulated — but at your core, you have guiding principles. Either way, it signals there is a reason behind your decision.

You are willing to take ownership for your decision. This means you will take responsibility for the decision, will embrace your position, accept the results of the outcome, and where appropriate, drive action.

It also quietly says you are not ruled by the fear of being wrong, are willing to embrace discomfort and are secure enough to expose yourself to criticism.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” — Teddy Roosevelt

The same characteristics that are involved with decision making and the associated action tend to increase the chances of victory (however your goals have defined it).

Now to the caveats I mentioned earlier:

There is one case that comes to mind where saying maybe is appropriate — similar to when it’s your turn to bet when playing poker, instead of betting you say, “Check”. You are still in the game but by doing this you’re letting the next player decide the bet; you are trying to get a better understanding of the situation before you make your decision. Sometimes you simply need more time and information before you can make a decision so you do nothing — for now. But be cautious, if you wait too long, someone else may make the decision for you.

Also, if your decision is no, it is important to look in the mirror and ask yourself if your decision is based on your goals and objectives. It is fair to say that what you’re deciding on is not important but it’s dangerous to let it mask the fact that you are really afraid, want to avoid responsibility or worried about what others think so say “no” as a default. Ensure when your decision is no, it’s not a result of not wanting to make a decision.

Being the Man in the Arena is uncomfortable but it’s preferable to being in the stands where you are comfortable watching as you indulge the pastime of complaint and criticism. Metaphorically speaking, take that step into the arena because nothing good comes from being too comfortable watching.

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